How Anger Becomes Power

 

The Roots of Anger

• Unfairness
  Somebody hurts you by being unfair, so you're getting agry. Like a child realizing the other child gets more candy than itself. 
  
  
•  Overstepping
  Somebody oversteps your or somebody else's invisible red line - for instance, if your partner lies to you or if a politician makes desicions causing hurt or distress for you or someone else, while the politician doesn't care a bit. 
   
•  Frustration / Helplessness 
   Your needs aren't considered (by someone or soemthing). For instance if someone needs help from someone else, but doesn't get it and suffers. 

There are a lot of reasons for anger. 

Anger as failure? No way!

In the psycho-spiritual scene, anger is unfortunately often seen as a 'weak' or 'unwanted' emotion. If you feel it, you're not enlightened, you're not in the flow. People believe that anger drains our energy. 

I know a lot of very wise and spiritual persons trying to totally renounce anger. I see this differently. As mentioned in other posts, I don't think it to be our task on this earth to constantly divide  into "goor or bad" through endless cherry-picking. 

It also is not expression of failure to find yourself in the midst of "unpleasant" emotions - as long as this isn't permanent (because this reduces energy). 
Being angry is pretty natural.  
By smiling or meditating anger away, one simply surpresses it. Yes, it can be transformed, released and send to light, but not in "fast-track". 

And yes, the longer one practices, the better one gets. Anyway, life includes to strumble and fall - and be angry. 

 What I miss the most about the idea angery must not be, is the clearness about the fact there are two general versions of anger. 
And when one isn't able to difference this and locks anger out from the emotional life - only because the "spiritual folks" tell anything else would be failure - simply misses a great chance and wonderful, healing experiences. 

By the way, anger never is bad in general. Anger is an important, very human reaction - and the better it transforms, the more chances it offers. 

Holy Anger

There are two versions of anger: 

We often imagine anger as fury. Destructive, devastating. 
Imagine it like a devastating vulcanic eruption, destroying villages, woods and razing everything to the ground. Like Pompeji. It leaves nothing than scorched earth. After a long while you may be able to find artefacts teaching you valueable lessons. But, at first and in general -  all is destroyed. 

But, there is something else, something beautiful: 
Holy Anger. It is like a big, multi-colored flame. It is huge and dangerously powerful. Handle with care! 

Anyway, this is what it is: Power.
It enables you to warm up, rise up. Imagine it like a wild bonfire, making you dance and sweat, drum and stomp - bringing up an ancient, deep pwower inside of you. Dennoch birgt sie eben genau das: Kraft.

Holy Anger enables you slowly but with breathcatching power to reach to you inner, free from all the shy layers and find a way to yourself. In an intensity you hardly will reach with 1000 hours of gently smiling "meditationpillow-cuddling" (this offers other qualities, of course). 

Holy Anger is so precious. And only to be reached if you are willing to hold the risk of an eruption. But if you decide to walk a long way around the volcano and hide from the heat, you'll never reach the core and the power of holy anger. 

By the way - this isn't only a spiritual image. As a matter of fact, science makes this exact distinction. Neurobiology and psychology alike recognize these two faces of anger: destructive and constructive.

When anger becomes destructive, it floods the amygdala (our brain’s fear center) with stress hormones like adrenaline, signaling danger and kicking off the fight-or-flight response. The pivot point is whether our prefrontal cortex—our center of reason—comes online. If it does, it pauses to ask, 'Is this actually dangerous?', guiding our energy into constructive channels. If it stays offline, we erupt.

 

Anger creates New

Psychology knows about the fact, anger only is a secondary emotion. In the beginning we'll find different emotions.

And this fits to our image of Holy Anger as a nurturing power and flame - and the destructive fury as a kind of eruption.  

By looking beyond the fire we'll realize that the flame doesn't burn by itself. It was lit by other emotions - like fear, shame, grief, helplessness, leading to despair or resistance. 

These emotions are, quite literally, the wood, the tinder, and the spark for the fire of anger.

The big question is, are we able to realize the emotions byond the fire and accept them? And the more we learn und practice to resist the idea of "surpressing" these emotions, the better we'll be able to recognize them as the first spark for our fire.  

So, if destructive anger is released by shame, fueled by despair and is erupting therefore in wild fury, it will leave nothing than scroched earth: We scream, hurt, insult others or ourself and end up in shame, despair and fear again... the lava starts simmering again and the vicious circle re-starts. 
After a while fury will calm down, but it didn't help anyone. In the best case it didn't create anything of worth, in the worst case it destroyed. 

Holy Wut (constructive) is different. A special situation releases shame, leads to despair, too - but, then it transforms to the powerful flame of Holy Anger (our center of reason jumps in). This flame empowers us to ask the right questions: What can I do, in detail? What is my lesson? How can I handle it? 

So, the flame creates something New. A new emotion, a new way out. Maybe it gives us the strength to find new solutions. Or we meets, enabled by this strength, new persons, helping us out. Maybe we will forge new qualities and shape our character. 

We grow. 

 

The Fruits of Holy Anger

Let`s do  a detailed example: 
Currently, so many feel a profound anger toward politicians and policies. Decision-makers are recklessly shaping our fate, operating—to put it diplomatically—on what seems like rather 'scarce' information.

So, they may decide (like in Germany) for a single-parent that he/she suddenly has to  work more, no matter if this will affect his/her little child. Politicians don't ask if there is child-care or not, if the child may have high needs or the single-parent maybe simply wishes to be with his small child and not giving it to foreigners the whole day long. 

What does this do to the single-parent? It scares. And then, it leaves helpless, desperate. Maybe even ashamed. And what will follow afterwards? Right - anger... or fury. 

And if this single-parent tries to push the anger away, this may work out a while. Volcano keeps on bubbling anyway. Pressure gehts higher and higher and the eruption will get out of control the more time goes by.  

But, if one accepts the anger and lets it be - best case in a self-chosen, approbiate moment - it can be transformer to the powerful flame. 

Anger is allowed to flow. In our example this may be the moment, when child is at school or something like this, and the parent lets it flow by crying, screaming to the pillow or punching the punching bag. And after this, he or she will look beyond the anger. Allows fear, shame, helplessness to be there. Endures. Embraces.  

And gets back to the anger, slowed down. And uses the strength it offers now. 

In our example this may lead to the fact the single-parent gets legal help or finds ways to work half-time. 
Maybe there won't be a good solution at all, but the helplessness will be less. One will be back in the own power. 

I chose a very desperate situation by purpose, as many persons are not aware how difficult such life circumstances can be. But we can transfer this example to a lot of other situations. 

This example of "anger because of politics" leads to grudge and anger for the most of us - and with this to unlucky election decisions or hate for certain groups (like foreigners, poor persons, disabled persons, women, rich ones, politicians, the Old, The Young etc.)

Worst case is when destructive anger changes personality, leads to aggession and harm for ourself or others.  

It must not get this far. 

The Emotion Behind the Anger

What is criminally neglected is the emotion behind the anger.

Psychologically speaking anger is the tip of the iceberg—and energetically, it  simply is the result of bundling various vibrations and energies.

In channelings, meditations, séances, and subconscious practices, you rarely will encounter anger on its own. Often, it is so fat and intense that other feelings virtually disappear behind or inside it. But when you accept the anger and surrender to it—calmly and with clarity, not in fight mode—the flame gets smaller. The volcanic eruption never comes.

Because Holy Anger carries so much power, it can help you grow beyond yourself. And by observing and working with the feeling beyond, beneath, or before the anger, you can also heal yourself.

 

An Exercise: The Path to Your Anger

Close your eyes and make yourself comfortable. Now, imagine you are walking along a forest path, slowly getting closer to your anger.

Look closely now: Is it an exploding volcano? Or a massive monster of wild flames? Is your anger large, wild, and scaring—or is it  small and quiet? Is it a flame burning steadily and powerfully, or is it out of control?

If it is out of control, sit down in front of it and remain completely calm. Bring calmness to your side - imagine it as a person or figure (what it looks like is you decision). Just sit there with the anger and let it rage and burn. You are safe. Calmness is like a bubble of blue, cool water surrounding you, protecting you from anger's destructive side.

When the anger is no longer as hot and wild, bow to it (showing that you are aware of it and appreciate it). Thank it for being there—after all, it has an important job to do with you.

Usually, this alone makes it getting smaller and calmer. Now, ask if you may look beyond it. Perhaps it opens a little (like a gate), or shrinks, steps aside, and shows the emotions behind it. These might be fear, grief, pain, helplessness or frustration.

Thank them as well for being there. Make peace with them, embrace them.  Then you can check if your anger already changed.  

Ask if it can transform into Holy Anger, together with the calmness and all the feelings you just embraced. 

If it transforms - you should just feel its power. And then ask the anger to show you the way—how to handle the situation that once triggered the fury at all. 

You might need several days, hours, or need to repeat this visualization many times. It might not work every single time., too Especially when anger has been there for a long time andwas suppressed, it can be very wild at first. 

Stay gentle, but be disciplined. The more often you work with it, the better you will become.

 

Fire Is Life

Once... humanity discovered fire.

It brought us warmth, protection, and was so important for our development. It is not without reason that fire is one of the four fundamental elements. 

Yet, learning how to handle it properly is until today the difference between a nourishing, life-spending flame or an uncontrolled wildfire. 

It is just the same with your anger.

Using and  channeling it is not like a light switch you simply flip. It is a process. 

But is is so important not to surpress the fire inside, but cultivating it instead—so wild energy can transform  into your strongest power.

I wish you great strength—and patience—on this journey. 

You will make it.